Is Their a Narcissistic Gene in the Preacher's Kid?

Is Their a Narcissistic Gene in the Preacher's Kid?

What do you know about your pastor's kids? Are they anything like their narcissistic parents? What can I say about PK's better known as, "Preacher Kids"?  Often times, the term PK's or "Preacher Kids" is used in a descriptive way and as a stereotype. PK's are viewed as the "perfect ones" and/or the next future leaders . When in fact, most PK's are disassociated with the church. Yes-you read that correctly. Most "Preacher Kids" are rebels against the church and their own parents. The REAL question that we should be asking is: What are the real reasons why preacher kids leave the church? Several reasons why some PK's leave the church is this:

Preachers’ kids who leave the faith may do so for a variety of reasons. Many preachers’ kids are deeply hurt by the way church members treat their parents. Young people see the anger and conflict that can arise in even the best of congregations, and they conclude that the “religion” these people profess can’t be real. Young people see these conflicts as hypocrisy...

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A Story about An Apostolic Mother who is Emotionally Abusive and Narcissistic

A Story about An Apostolic Mother who is Emotionally Abusive and Narcissistic

My mother is the oldest girl out of nine children who was raised in a single parent home by my grandmother. When my mother was six years old, her father died in a car accident. I could only imagine the devastation and impact that a child at the age of my mother at that time would have.

 My grandfather's death trigger the narcissistic behavior that my mother suffers with today. My mother emotions were involuntary disruptive because the death of her father, which in turn caused her to later become emotionally abusive towards her children. You see-emotional abuse occurs when the mother tries to fill those needs of hers which normally would have been already been filled during a healthy childhood and adolescence.

Below are characteristics of emotional abusive mothers:

1.Making the child/teen feel responsible for the mother's feelings.
2.Threatening them in general.
3.Threatening them specifically with rejection or abandonment.
4. Threatening them with vague, unstated consequences.
5. Using force upon them. Invalidating their feelings.
6.Laying undeserved guilt on them.
7. Placing undeserved blame on them....

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The Story about one Woman's Narcissist Sister

The Story about one Woman's Narcissist Sister

What can I say about my narcissistic sister, Nicole. Well, she's definitely just like my narcissistic mother. Growing up with a sibling who too is considered narcissistic was difficult. The mind games, jealous rage, and her blackmail tactics has destroyed my trust in her. Was this surprising to me? Certainly not. Nicole is my narcissistic mother 's favorite child, in other words the "golden child". Nicole's abusive ways weren't physical, they were always verbal. She became worst as she has gotten older.

Narcissism is real in the Black community. This article is the introduction of countless stories about my narcissistic sibling...

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Where is the Traditional Black Church Today?

Where is the Traditional Black Church Today?

In African American history, the "Black Church" has been the focal point for the Black community for centuries. "The Church" has established itself as the greatest source for African American religious enrichment. However, today the term " Black Church" part takes in racial disparities and  the glamorous religious lifestyles within the Black community.

What happen to the Traditional Black Church where all who were of color gathered together in harmony to worship, to help those who needed help, and discuss ways of  escaping bondage from The  Enemy: Narcissistic White Man. Today, the "Black Church" is full of narcissistic prosperity preachers who are scared of "preaching the truth" about today's issues. When was the last time your Black preacher preached about racial disparities in the Black community? Not very often, huh? Right!  In African American history-it was known that the "Black Church" or the "Black Religion" were the threat of white existence. Today, we are no where near where we were in our ancestors days...

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The Black Preacher as a Cult Leader?, Report Says

The Cult Leader: The Black Preacher

Today, the Black Preacher is the most egotistical and controversial character of the times. Below is a video I believe, supports what I just stated. Throughout the video pay close attention to the following: 

1. At 19:05-SamVaknin describes the narcissistic cult leader. In this section he also explains that people are instruments of gratifications, criticism are unheard of, discipline is maintained, and most importantly- the cult leader must have total control of a group of weak minded, unthinking, and reflecting people. The above are examples of a cult leader, which in my opinion is the perfect description of the Black Preacher today. Mr. Vaknin also explains that most cult leaders displays 7 out of 9 NPD traits, which I find extremely alarming...

 

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Exploring Narcisssim in the Black Church

Narcissism in the Pulpit

Is your control freak, 'pimp of a preacher' a narcissist? Take a look at the video below. In my opinion the video perfectly describes the sexual fantasies of a narcissistic preacher.

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Blacks Need to Know that Narcissism is a Universal Issue

Blacks Need to Know that Narcissism is a Universal Issue

 For awkward reasons, the Black community is uneducated and ignorant about mental illnesses amongst our own people. Why is this? We are no different from the Caucasian community when dealing with mental issues such as: Anxiety Disorders, Bipolar, Childhood Disorders, Cognitive Disorders, and etc. Commonly, the disorder that is recognizably  found in the Black community is (NPD) Narcissistic Personality Disorder. This is nothing new. There's at least two individuals out of every African American household in the United States, that suffers from this condition.

Astonishingly, but we do nothing about it-because we think it is normal. Well, you might ask-what is consider normal in the Black community? Normal in the Black community is when both parents are in the household; yet there's no love, nurturing, or structure coming from either parent because one or both suffers from narcissism unknowingly.  Normal in the Black community is when an verbal abusive father demonizes his son because he hates his mother. Normal in the Black community is when a mother uses gas-lightning to undermine her teenager daughter. Hurtfully, normal in the Black community is when Black Pastors  uses the church to cover up  their own demons of manipulation and sexual gratification....

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What Are the Signs of a Victim of Narcissistic Supply?

Black People: Are you a Victim of Narcissistic Supply?

 In my previous post I defined what narcissistic supply is. As a child my apostolic,abusive, and manipulating mother used her children for her narcissistic supply. We were her primary source. Yes, it is true! My apostolic, 'fire-baptized', 'holy-ghost filled' mother thrived on the accomplishments and disappointments of her children. Below describes what it means to become the source of narcisstic supply:

Sources of Secondary Narcissistic Supply are all those who provide the narcissist with narcissistic supply on a regular basis: spouse, friends, colleague, business partners, teachers, neighbors, and so on. Both these primary and secondary Narcissistic Supply and their triggers and sources are incorporated in a Narcissistic Pathological Space....

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